Posts Tagged ‘relationships’

Bad gift from your sweetie?

Monday, December 15th, 2008

Turns out it’s the guy who might care more.

By Regina Nuzzo

Special to the Times

Los Angeles Times – Health Section

December 15, 2008

by manmadepants

It’s Christmas Eve. You’ve just exchanged presents with your special — or soon-to-be-special — someone, when you hear the lackluster response: “Uh, gee, thanks.”

Is a bombed gift the kiss of death for your future together? Or a funny story to share years hence?

Research published in August suggests the answer is different for men and women and, perhaps surprisingly, it’s the men who care more.

In a psychology experiment at the University of Virginia, when men got a rotten gift that was supposedly from their long-term girlfriend (in this case, a gift certificate from a store they hated), they were more likely to decide the girlfriend was very different from them, and they were more pessimistic about their chances of staying together and getting married.

Older adults’ sexual desires don’t have to fade

Monday, November 17th, 2008

New studies on the mysterious sex lives of 57-to-85-year-old Americans.

THE MATING GAME

By Regina Nuzzo

Special to The Times

Los Angeles Times – Health Section

November 17, 2008

CorbisFar be it from us to pick nits with billionaire Warren Buffett in these bleak economic times, but perhaps he knows more about finance than he does about sex. “It’s nice to have a lot of money, but you know, you don’t want to keep it around forever,” Buffett, worth $62 billion at age 78, told Bloomberg News recently. “Otherwise it’s a little like saving sex for your old age.”

His compatriots might disagree.

Nearly 40% of Buffett’s peers — American men between 75 and 85 years old — are sexually active, new studies reveal. More than half of those have sex at least twice a month. A quarter do it every week. (Only 17% of women that age are sexually active, but they’re equally busy.) That might be more positive transactions than Wall Street is seeing these days.

Love and infidelity

Wednesday, September 17th, 2008

How our brains keep us from straying

THE MATING GAME

By Regina Nuzzo

Special to The Times

Los Angeles Times – Health Section

September 15, 2008

TemptationIn the pursuit of happily-ever-after, the odds seem to be stacked against us.

Men and women reap huge benefits when they stick around with a good partner — staying happier and healthier, living longer and passing along more genes.

But the sticking-around part is a challenge. We don’t get long-term relationship payoffs right away. And until then — between the once-upon-a-time and the happily-ever-after — plenty of temptations can beckon.

Not that it’s wrong to shop around before settling down. But there always will be enticing alternative mates — whether heart-grabbing or merely eye-catching. So researchers wonder: With so many attractive alternatives, how do humans manage to maintain relationships at all?