Posts Tagged ‘psychology’

Bad gift from your sweetie?

Monday, December 15th, 2008

Turns out it’s the guy who might care more.

By Regina Nuzzo

Special to the Times

Los Angeles Times – Health Section

December 15, 2008

by manmadepants

It’s Christmas Eve. You’ve just exchanged presents with your special — or soon-to-be-special — someone, when you hear the lackluster response: “Uh, gee, thanks.”

Is a bombed gift the kiss of death for your future together? Or a funny story to share years hence?

Research published in August suggests the answer is different for men and women and, perhaps surprisingly, it’s the men who care more.

In a psychology experiment at the University of Virginia, when men got a rotten gift that was supposedly from their long-term girlfriend (in this case, a gift certificate from a store they hated), they were more likely to decide the girlfriend was very different from them, and they were more pessimistic about their chances of staying together and getting married.

Vying for a soul mate? Psych out the competition with science

Monday, December 8th, 2008

Deep-seated cultural cues play a role in snagging a romantic partner at a party.

THE MATING GAME: HOLIDAY PARTY SPECIAL

By Regina Nuzzo

Special to the Times

Los Angeles Times – Health Section

December 8, 2008

Wondering what to wear at the holiday party to lure a new love for ‘09? That expensive, sequiny dress? A handsome new holly-green vest and some knock-’em-dead after-shave? Too bad fashion writers don’t read science journals. Instead of just lecturing on clothing, perfume and makeup, they could draw on research from human mating for their tips on boosting one’s attractiveness at holiday parties — ones that don’t involve buying a thing.

Details such as the color of the walls, who you stand next to, whether the crab cakes at the buffet run out early — strange to say — may change how others perceive us in small (yet potentially useful) ways. “People are differentially attractive under different circumstances,” says David M. Buss, an evolutionary psychologist at the University of Texas at Austin and author of “The Evolution of Desire.”

Love and infidelity

Wednesday, September 17th, 2008

How our brains keep us from straying

THE MATING GAME

By Regina Nuzzo

Special to The Times

Los Angeles Times – Health Section

September 15, 2008

TemptationIn the pursuit of happily-ever-after, the odds seem to be stacked against us.

Men and women reap huge benefits when they stick around with a good partner — staying happier and healthier, living longer and passing along more genes.

But the sticking-around part is a challenge. We don’t get long-term relationship payoffs right away. And until then — between the once-upon-a-time and the happily-ever-after — plenty of temptations can beckon.

Not that it’s wrong to shop around before settling down. But there always will be enticing alternative mates — whether heart-grabbing or merely eye-catching. So researchers wonder: With so many attractive alternatives, how do humans manage to maintain relationships at all?